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Help for New Swingers
Can I become a swinger?
Of course you can. Everyone is welcomed
in the swinging community, as whatever your shape, size,
colour, tastes, fantasies or shoe size is, someone,
somewhere will be looking for you.
OK, so how do I start?
Determine what you (if single) or you
and your partner want to do, Be prepared to discuss your
needs, and your partners, be prepared for some
surprises, as you may well find that the things you have
talked about as pillow talk are just the start of some
very exciting fantasies. Remember that you both need to
feel comfortable with what you are going to do, so
define behaviour boundaries for each meeting or club
visit.
Go to the event, and stay within the
agreed boundaries. There have been many incidents where
one partner has abandoned the agreement mid way through
the evening, which is going to cause the evening to end
in arguments.
Remember that at anytime, you or the
other people or person can say NO. At this point
activity stops. Never ignore a person who asks you to
stop playing, physical contact after this point is rape.
After the event, go home and play, talk
about the evening, what you liked and disliked, how it
could be more fun, and what you should avoid on future
meetings.
So how do I/we find someone to "Play" with?
The Internet
As you are reading this, you
obviously have access to a computer and the
internet. This is the quickest medium to make
contact with swingers.
Click the join button on the menu,
and start browsing through the millions of people
looking to play with people like you.
Once you have fond some potential
playmates, write them a message. Remember that you
are not the only person looking, and probably not
the only person trying to contact the people you
have found. You need to check their profile to make
sure that your details match what they are looking
for, you will then need to sell yourselves without
being arrogant, write telling them a bit about you
both, and what you want to try.
You may not get a response, you may
not, but don't give up, with thousands of people in
the scene, you will find someone somewhere.
Contact Magazines
These adult magazines are on sale in
most countries. They consist of dozens of small ads
of people looking for others to play with. You read
the magazine, write letters to the people you like
the look of, and then send your letters to the
magazine for them to forward to the advertisers.
This method works, but is slow. It
can be 3 months or more before an ad is printed, and
days or weeks for your letter to reach the
advertiser and for them to reply to you.
Swingers Clubs and Parties
There are thousands of swingers
clubs around the world, and they make an ideal venue
for meeting other people. Most have a bar/relaxation
area where you can meet other swingers in safety,
and where should you find someone compatible you
have the facilities to play.
Check with the club before you go to
make sure that the day you intend to visit they
cater for people you could want to meet.
Clubs often have nights geared to
meet the needs of different groups within the
swinging scene:
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Couples Only nights - catering
for couple who want to meet couples. Single
males are always barred from these events,
though single ladies are usually allowed.
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Greedy Girl / gang bang nights -
catering for the girl who likes lots of male
attention. The ratio of men to women is from 3
to 1, to 10 to 1. This can sound daunting, but
ladies are treated with respect, and only play
with as many, or as few, of the men as they want
to.
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Bi nights - generally for
couples only where both are bi-sexual.
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Fetish nights - dressing up,
whips and chains, oil and leather and lace.
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Gay nights - usually geared
towards gay men, though some cater for gay
females as well.
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